Writer's Block: How could you?
Jan. 22nd, 2011 12:51 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
nightshade1972[Error: unknown template qotd]
If you're not actually married, with a piece of paper to prove it, it's not "cheating" if they go outside the relationship. However, if you know he/she "cheated" on you, and you marry them anyway because "you can change him/her", you're more likely than not to be mistaken. While it's true there are many instances where the "other woman/man" turns out to be That One Special Love You've Been Waiting For, and that feeling is mutual, it's at least equally true, if not more so, that "a leopard can't change its spots". In other words, if you married a "cheater", that little piece of paper isn't likely to stop them.
"Cheating" can also be in the eye of the beholder. I don't like or enjoy sex. My husband knew this before we got married, and married me anyway. I told him many times before, and many times since, our marriage that if he needed to sow his wild oats elsewhere, he was welcome to. He shouldn't have to do without simply because I don't enjoy it. So of course I would "take him back" in that circumstance, it would be extremely hypocritical of me not to.
If you're not actually married, with a piece of paper to prove it, it's not "cheating" if they go outside the relationship. However, if you know he/she "cheated" on you, and you marry them anyway because "you can change him/her", you're more likely than not to be mistaken. While it's true there are many instances where the "other woman/man" turns out to be That One Special Love You've Been Waiting For, and that feeling is mutual, it's at least equally true, if not more so, that "a leopard can't change its spots". In other words, if you married a "cheater", that little piece of paper isn't likely to stop them.
"Cheating" can also be in the eye of the beholder. I don't like or enjoy sex. My husband knew this before we got married, and married me anyway. I told him many times before, and many times since, our marriage that if he needed to sow his wild oats elsewhere, he was welcome to. He shouldn't have to do without simply because I don't enjoy it. So of course I would "take him back" in that circumstance, it would be extremely hypocritical of me not to.
