Has hell frozen over yet?
Nov. 28th, 2009 11:36 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
nightshade1972The Paternal Unit called this evening. Supposedly the Maternal Unit is "very upset" that hubby and I weren't there for Turkey Day. Then there was a brief but weighty pause, during which I should apparently have apologized to them for my "selfish" behavior. I didn't give them the satisfaction. When the Paternal Unit realized an "apology" was not immediately forthcoming, he decided to "give me an easy out" for missing Thanksgiving.
He said "Oh...but you went to (very far away town, for hubby's business), right? That's why you weren't here?"
"No, Dad, we got back late Wednesday night. We were too tired and didn't feel like showing up."
Suddenly he decided he had better things to do than continue the conversation, and hung up.
Sigh. 'Twas ever thus. I wish he'd figure out I bear very little ill will towards him at all--I'm perfectly willing to continue dealing with him and the Fraternal Unit, just not the Maternal Unit and Gram. But if he's determined to make me choose between "package deal" and "nothing", I'll take hubby and the inlaws any day of the week, and twice on Sundays.
Part Two: The Paternal Unit just emailed me (Sun 11/29) to tell me that he "doesn't know what happened with Thanksgiving, but he'd sure like to see it resolved". See topic. I deleted the email without responding. I've tried, many times over many years, to get him to understand that the Maternal Unit has serious issues, and I'm not gonna be a party to her Mama Drama anymore. And he's indicated to me, many times over many years, what his choice has been. I'll miss Dad and Andy terribly, but I'm not doing this anymore. Like Dad also said in this email, "life is too short".
He said "Oh...but you went to (very far away town, for hubby's business), right? That's why you weren't here?"
"No, Dad, we got back late Wednesday night. We were too tired and didn't feel like showing up."
Suddenly he decided he had better things to do than continue the conversation, and hung up.
Sigh. 'Twas ever thus. I wish he'd figure out I bear very little ill will towards him at all--I'm perfectly willing to continue dealing with him and the Fraternal Unit, just not the Maternal Unit and Gram. But if he's determined to make me choose between "package deal" and "nothing", I'll take hubby and the inlaws any day of the week, and twice on Sundays.
Part Two: The Paternal Unit just emailed me (Sun 11/29) to tell me that he "doesn't know what happened with Thanksgiving, but he'd sure like to see it resolved". See topic. I deleted the email without responding. I've tried, many times over many years, to get him to understand that the Maternal Unit has serious issues, and I'm not gonna be a party to her Mama Drama anymore. And he's indicated to me, many times over many years, what his choice has been. I'll miss Dad and Andy terribly, but I'm not doing this anymore. Like Dad also said in this email, "life is too short".
