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nightshade1972) wrote2012-03-25 05:50 am
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Writer's Block: Plenty of Fish?
[Error: unknown template qotd]Relatively few, actually. I never dated in HS. I dated a bunch of guys my freshman year of college, and then only sporadically after that. The longest relationship I ever had, prior to meeting my husband, was one of the college relationships. That one lasted about six months, until I was foolish enough to mention "the M-word", then he dropped me like a hot potato. I'm 40 now. I met my husband just prior to turning 32. As I said, I didn't actually start dating until college, and I'd say altogether over the roughly 15 years between college and meeting my husband, I dated probably less than a dozen guys.
A big part of that is the fact I'm disabled and can't drive. Nobody wants a crip, especially one who's dependent on others to get around. You know how they always tell you to use your own transportation, and meet in a public place so that if things don't go well, you can bail safely and on your own? Not so much when you live in a city with poor public transportation, you don't have your own, and you can't drive. I always had the first meeting at my place--I felt a lot safer kicking someone out of my own place, if I had to, than going to the apartment/house of some guy I just met, especially if they didn't live on or near a bus route.
A big part of that is the fact I'm disabled and can't drive. Nobody wants a crip, especially one who's dependent on others to get around. You know how they always tell you to use your own transportation, and meet in a public place so that if things don't go well, you can bail safely and on your own? Not so much when you live in a city with poor public transportation, you don't have your own, and you can't drive. I always had the first meeting at my place--I felt a lot safer kicking someone out of my own place, if I had to, than going to the apartment/house of some guy I just met, especially if they didn't live on or near a bus route.